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i am a family physician who was diagnosed with
early mild cognitive impairment(mci) amnestic type on december 21, 2010
this is a precursor to alzheimers disease
because of this diagnosis i have opted to stop practicing medicine
this blog will be about my journey with this disease
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Wednesday, December 16, 2020

my story revisited #70-visit them when this is over


when i read this blog below from 2012 i realized that had that been 2020 i would not have been able to travel to see my friend gf 

it was my last visit to see him
i knew as i patted his foot as i was leaving that my bye would be my last to him
it was

in 2020 i would have been too worried i would carry in the covid 19 to him as he laid bedridden in the final stages of huntington disease
his body wasnt working but his mind was sharp

his caretaker wrote a nice letter to me after that visit
read it and you will understand why its important to visit you loved ones with chronic terminal diseases like cancer or huntingtons or alzheimers

remember they know you are there even if you dont think they do 

when some one is gravely ill with a debilitating disease such as cancer
huntingtons disease or alzheimers
its hard to go visit them
i found it hard to go visit my friend greg the last time i saw him
i wanted to remember him like he was
i also find it hard to visit my younger brother who has alzheimers
especially as he has gotten worse
i want to remember him as he was
and i am looking at a mirror every time i see him
its hard to do that visit
but i needed and need to do it
you need to do it also

you never know what difference although small sometimes
you can make in some ones life

here is a note from one of my friends gregs caregivers

I was one of Greg's caregivers for about 2 years. I can only hope I made the difference in his life that he made in mine. He, by far, is my favorite person to have had the opportunity to care for. Unfortunately, there are others that need care and I did not have the opportunity to attend his memorial. I heard it was wonderful.
Last year just before your last visit Greg suffered a great set-back. He all but stopped talking to us and showed very little attention to us. Mostly, he just listened to the radio or watched tv with little concern for them.
I was off the days of your visit, but as soon as I got back I noticed the difference. I asked him if he had missed me and he said "NO". Then he got the biggest grin! He not only was back 100% but a little more.
I was ready to move you next door. I have never seen such a good change in him. I give you all the credit for bringing him back and even making him a little better. I think you may have extended his life and for certain added quality of life during his last days. Thank you. You are an amazing friend and Greg loved you second to Susan.
Greg is walking beside you now and you need only to feel with your heart and he will be there for you.

make a difference in some ones life who is gravely ill
go visit them 
youll feel better that you did
you may make their days better
i have never regretted visiting gf that day 
i will always remember the visit
i made a similar visit to my younger brother a few weeks before he died
he was bedridden and  in the final throes of alzheimers
i think he knew i was there

so when this covid 19 pandemic is over with be sure and visit your ill loved ones again
its been a long time since we have been able to visit them

the organicgreen doctor

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